"We never experienced counseling before that was so immediately effective."
"We were holding a lot of resentment towards each other... looking for somebody neutral to hold space for us. Having something that felt immediately tangible and helpful was great because it gave me a sense of hope."
- Leah & Erik
Hi I'm Brian. I guide couples from the brink of divorce to feel more connected than ever before.
This isn't just a job for me, I love what I do and I'm absolutely obsessed about relationships. I've been fascinated by this question, "Why is it so hard for two people who love each other to understand each other and make it work?" I'm delighted to share the answers with you! It's my honour to support couples to grow together, deepen in love and understanding, and expand what they think is possible in their relationship - to become the best parents, partners and lovers they can be.
Break the cycle that leads to divorce. Don't just grow older, grow closer.
You will learn:
✅ Why the Real Problem Isn't Communication - and how to actually resolve root issues.
✅ How to Argue Constructively & Repair Any Conflict — even the same old fight.
✅ The #1 Tool to De-Escalate Fights - and the surprising reason couples resist it.
✅ Why Being “Nice” Destroys Relationships — and what to do instead.
✅ The Keys to Understanding Each Other — even when you completely disagree.
More than talk therapy:
9 Differences to my Approach
1) We don't "talk about your problems"
Rehashing "what happened"... you've done that enough already, and it doesn't' work. Unlike other couples therapists, I don't let you fight in front of me. I guide you to resolve issues at the actual root level, so you don't spend years in therapy. Sessions are focused, productive, and forward-moving. I’m here to help you break the pattern, not rehearse it.
2) I don't give advice, I facilitate the energy of connection.
The best couples counselling requires more than therapeutic techniques, good advice or new skills, it’s about restoring something deeper: the felt experience of being close. Connection is a flow of energy that happens naturally when I support you to gently move beyond your self-protection mechanisms that you can't see to "take off your armour" and get emotionally naked. Facilitating that connection is an intuitive art form unique to every couples, not something you can follow from a manual.
3) I challenge you and see through the bullshit.
Many couples come see me after other therapy has failed. They say things like: “Our last therapist just let us fight, vent, empathized, gave us worksheets… but nothing really changed.” Couples need to be challenged, not coddled. What couples actually need is someone who sees through all the bullshit, interrupts the cycle, and helps you face the real issues with honesty and care. That’s what creates breakthroughs. That’s why couples who’ve been stuck for years start making real progress with me fast; we heal the root without getting lost in syptoms.
4) We don't just "improve communication skills".
Couples need new experiences not just new skills. The roots of conflict are deeper and more complex than "poor communication". That's why even the most intelligent couples stay stuck. We resolve conflict at the root, not the symptom level, to create permanent change. We don't waste time on bandaid level solutions to symptoms. We create fundamental relationship transformation so you can have an intimate, passionate and fulfilling relationship for the rest of your life.
5) I don't squeeze you through a one-size fits all formula.
Many therapists only stick to one modality, but every couple is unique. I draw from: Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Somatic Experiencing, Gottman Method, Imago Therapy, Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Relational Life Therapy, Compassionate Inquiry, Gestalt Therapy. Each session is tailored to your unique dynamic, goals, and developmental growth stage, so you get what actually works for you, not a generic protocol. This isn’t therapy by the book. This is therapy customized for your evolving relationship.
6) I don't solve your problems for you.
Couples can solve problems on their own when they feel emotionally connected. That's why we repair past hurt and resentment to strengthen your emotional bond first. Only when you feel connected and understood can you negotiate disagreements peacefully with ease. I empower you to develop the capacity and skills to resolve problems and differences without me as quickly as possible. I want to make myself obsolete as fast as possible.
7) I join you in the trenches, then guide you out.
Couples say they appreciate how I'm human with them. I meet you as an equally imperfect human who understands how hard relationships are. I live what I teach which allows me to guide you into new possibilities you can't see yet. Yes there's hope. Yes it's possible. If you're truly open to it, I can show you the way.
8) Somatic, Body-Based & Intuitive Felt Sense
Your body is always communicating and telling a story. I'm attuned to micro expressions and subtle nuances in your dynamic that are signals of protection or doorways to connection. I combine expertise, creativity and intuition to make up exercises on the fly that allow you to open your hearts. Remember connection isn't intellectual, it's emotional (of the heart). New ways of relating, including touch and different ways of holding each other interupt habitual patterns creating breakthroughs.
9) In-Home, In-Person, 3-hr Breakthrough Intensives
I've guided many couples from the brink of divorce to being more connected than ever before, even couples who thought it was absolutely "impossible" to recover from "cataclysmic" events and trauma. We do years worth of therapy in under 3 hours. This isn't talk therapy. I creatively facilitate connection and the opening of your hearts in ways that are completely unique to what you need in the moment, online and in-person.
I help you open the door to each other's hearts.
I love working with high conflict couples, who have tried everything, who other therapists couldn't help, who want to connect, but think it might be impossible.
Together, we turn hope into reality. Yes, what you want is possible. Yes, you can do it. Yes, it can get much much easier. Yes it's worth it. Yes you can heal all of the hurt and resentment that's cutting you off from each other. I watch the impossible become possible everyday. Ready to give yourself this gift?
