Caring for Couples Counselling Center Toronto | Couples Therapy Toronto | Marriage Counselling | Couples Sex & Intimacy Coaching | Relationship Counselling
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Conflict does not mean
there's something wrong
with you or your relationship.
Breakthrough in 1st session guaranteed, or you don't pay
"We were holding a lot of resentment towards each other... looking for somebody neutral to hold space for us. Having something that felt immediately tangible and helpful was great because it gave me a sense of hope."
- Leah & Erik
"We never experienced counselling before that was so immediately effective. It didn't feel like a scary, intimidating experience... we looked forward to it."
Letting in help can feel like admitting defeat, but in truth…
Getting therapy, coaching, or counselling to develop yourself and evolve your relationship can be incredibly liberating and empowering.
"Vulnerability is not weakness, it's our most accurate measure of courage."
- Dr. Brené Brown
The best athletes in the world have coaches. Just like a coach for a pro sports team, I help you play your best game together.
"I was stuck thinking, 'I won’t feel better about this until my partner changes… validates me, sees me, or understands me. But now I’m at complete peace with the issue that I thought was literally impossible to handle unless they changed."
- Julia
Couples Coaching & Marriage Counselling Services
We don't hyper-focus on problems, we expand into what's possible. That way you don't just grow old together, you grow your capacity to cultivate and maintain intimacy - closeness and connection - over time.
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Sex & Intimacy
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Codependency & Attachment
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BDSM & Kink, Boundaries & Consent
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Shame, Complex Trauma, Attachment & Self-Protection
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Tantra, Polarity Play & Wheel of Consent
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Conflict Resolution & Mediation
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Psychological & Emotional Safety and Trust
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Anger & Emotional Regulation
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Communication Skills
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Leadership & Parenting
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Relationship Vision, Purpose & Motivation
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Diverse relationship styles, ages, races, genders, same-sex couples,
Many couples fear they might discover:
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It's their "fault" / they're "the problem"
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They're incompatible / they'll have to breakup
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They're inadequate or won't be able to meet their partner's needs
It's natural to get defensive when you get hurt or criticized. So it takes courage to get curious inwardly and outwardly; to explore where you each have room to grow and develop without judging yourselves as bad or wrong.
1) We don't "talk about your problems" to infinity and beyond.
Rehashing "what happened"... you've done that enough already, and it doesn't' work. I don't let you fight in front of me. Great counselling is not "talking about your problems". I also don't flip through a textbook trying to figure out what's wrong with you or "who's fault it is" either. I guide you to self-develop, connect and understand each other in new ways in the 1st session.
5 Differences to my Approach
2) We don't just "improve your communication skills".
Communication skills, attachment styles and love languages are not the holy grail. It's true, we weren't taught the skills we need to create long-lasting secure, intimate and conflict-free relationships, so learning new skills helps. But the roots of conflict are deeper and more complex than "poor communication". That's why even the most intelligent couples stay stuck. We'll resolve your conflict at the root, not the symptom level, to create permanent change.
3) I don't squeeze you through a cookie-cutter formula, or pre-determined series of steps.
Couples' work is an art and a science. Every couple is unique, and there are patterns that all couples share. I combine an evidence-based and intuitive empathic approach blending aspects from a variety of modalities to meet each unique couple where they're at: Emotionally Focused Therapy, Compassionate Inquiry, Internal Family Systems, Somatic Experieincing, Family Systems Therapy, The Gottman Method, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Relational Life Therapy, The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, Imago Therapy, Narrative Therapy.
4) I don't solve your problems for you.
I guide you to develop the capacity to resolve problems and differences on your own. We repair and strengthen your bond so that you can negotiate disagreements peacefully and easefully. Learning how to create deeper levels of trust and an environment of psychological and emotional safety for each other is the unseen foundation upon which "good communication" happens. Trust is the bridge that must be built to bear the weight of your truth.
5) I don't hide my humanity. I meet you as an equal.
Growth is inherently humbling. I make mistakes just like you and I'm always learning. We all have our personal unseen struggles. I have chronic pain from a serious back injury, but you would never guess based on how I present myself. Life is tough in different ways for all of us, so it's best not to compare the ways we're challenged or are suffering. Slowly but surely, you can learn to judge yourself and others less which accelerates your growth process. I meet you as an equally imperfect human being - accepting of who I am and striving to be better at the same time.
"I discovered how to ask for what I REALLY want and found that respecting my boundaries is very HOT and sexy! I want other women to feel their power like I have, I recommend Brian all the time for women and men. He brings light to the table that helps you become more conscious."
- Nathalie
Brian always seems to help me see myself more clearly, which makes the sessions deeply nourishing. He has a beautiful ability to meet me where I am and reflect to me what I already know but am not consciously aware of. Perceptual shifts have been very potent and actually more powerful than just magically fixing something.
- Daniel
"When I met Brian I was dealing with numerous challenges in my personal relationships with all the important people in my life, from my own parents and young children to my husband and his family. I felt alone and carried a lot of guilt. Through some very honest conversations, Brian guided me to many realizations that set me free."
- Zoia