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Hi I'm Brian.
I empower couples to confidently repair any argument on their own so they can actually use conflict to deepen trust and grow closer
This isn't just a job for me, I'm fascinated by relationships, and I love my job. Everyday I coach couples to do what they think is "impossible": Heal hurt & resentment after decades of disconnection to feel more connected than ever before.
Break the cycle that leads to divorce. Don't just grow older, grow closer.
You will learn:
✅ Why the Real Problem Isn't Communication - and how to actually resolve root issues.
✅ How to Argue Constructively & Repair Any Conflict — even the same old fight.
✅ The #1 Tool to De-Escalate Fights - and the surprising reason couples resist it.
✅ Why Being “Nice” Destroys Relationships — and what to do instead.
✅ The Keys to Understanding Each Other — even when you completely disagree.
9 Differences to my Approach
1) We don't "talk about your problems"
Rehashing "what happened"... you've done that enough already, and it doesn't' work. Unlike other couples therapists, I don't let you fight in front of me. I guide you to resolve issues at the root level, so you don't spend years getting nowhere. Couples coaching sessions are focused, productive, and forward-moving. I’m here to help you break the pattern, not rehearse it.
2) Non-Pathologizing - Beyond "Failure" & "Fault"
In the same way you're not supposed to know how to fix a car, represent yourself in court, or design a building, none of us were never taught the skills you needed to have a peaceful, fulfilling and connected relationship. There's nothing horribly wrong with you or your relationship, and you haven't "failed" if you need support. No one's to blame, and it's no one's "fault", but you can take responsibility to become the best parent and partner you can be! The best athletes, sports and business teams need coaches, not because they're weak, but to help them play their best game together.
3) I don't give advice, I facilitate the energy of connection.
Growing together requires more than techniques, good advice or new skills, it’s about restoring something deeper: the felt experience of closeness. Connection is a flow of energy that happens naturally when I support you to gently move beyond your self-protection mechanisms to "take off your armour" and get emotionally naked. Facilitating that connection is an art unique to each couple.
4) I challenge you and see through the bullshit.
Many couples come see me after they've seen therapists with no progress. They say things like: Our therapist just let us fight, validated us, or gave us worksheets. Many couples need is someone who sees through all the bullshit, interrupts the cycle, and helps them face the real issues with honesty and care. That’s what creates breakthroughs. That’s why couples who’ve been stuck for years start making real progress with coaching fast; we get to the root without getting lost in symptoms.
5) We don't just "improve communication skills".
Couples need new experiences not just new skills. The roots of conflict are deeper and more complex than "poor communication". That's why even the most intelligent couples stay stuck. We resolve conflict at the root, not the symptom level, to create lasting change. We don't waste time on bandaid level solutions to symptoms. We create fundamental relationship transformation so you can have an intimate, passionate and fulfilling relationship for the rest of your life.
7) I don't solve your problems for you.
Couples can solve problems on their own when they feel emotionally connected. That's why we repair past hurt and resentment to strengthen your emotional bond first. Only when you feel connected and understood can you negotiate disagreements peacefully with ease. I empower you to develop the capacity and skills to resolve problems and differences without me as quickly as possible. I want to make myself obsolete as fast as possible.
8) I join you in the trenches, then guide you out.
Couples say they appreciate how I'm human with them. I meet you as an equally imperfect human who understands how hard relationships are. I live what I teach, which allows me to guide you into new possibilities you've never experienced before. I regularly hear couples say, "That was the first time you've ever really understood me." I'm your Relationship Sherpa, helping you carry the load, walking with you up the mountain.
9) In-Home, In-Person, 2-hr or 3-hr Breakthrough Intensives
In many cases, 1-hr is simply not enough. It's like doing open heart surgery then not finishing the job. That's why I offer different lengths of sessions so you can actually get what you need. Repair that resolves root issues forever requires us to operate outside of the box.
I help you understand each other completely, even when you disagree.
What you want is possible. Yes, you can do it. Yes, it can get easier. Yes, it's worth it. Yes you can dissolve the hurt and resentment that's cutting you off from each other. I watch the impossible become possible everyday. Ready to give yourself the gift of connection?
