In-Person | In-Home Available
"We never experienced counseling before that was so immediately effective."
"We were holding a lot of resentment towards each other... looking for somebody neutral to hold space for us. Having something that felt immediately tangible and helpful was great because it gave me a sense of hope."
- Leah & Erik
Hi I'm Brian. I guide couples from the brink of divorce to feel more connected than ever before.
This isn't just a job for me, I'm obsessed about relationships, and I absolutely love my job. Everyday I help couples do what they think is "impossible": Heal extreme hurt & resentment, including infidelity and emotional abuse, after decades of disconnection (without years of therapy).
My Mission: Empower couples to confidently repair any argument on their own so they can actually use conflict to deepen trust and grow closer.
Break the cycle that leads to divorce. Don't just grow older, grow closer.
You will learn:
✅ Why the Real Problem Isn't Communication - and how to actually resolve root issues.
✅ How to Argue Constructively & Repair Any Conflict — even the same old fight.
✅ The #1 Tool to De-Escalate Fights - and the surprising reason couples resist it.
✅ Why Being “Nice” Destroys Relationships — and what to do instead.
✅ The Keys to Understanding Each Other — even when you completely disagree.
10 Differences to my Approach
1) We don't "talk about your problems"
Rehashing "what happened"... you've done that enough already, and it doesn't' work. Unlike other couples therapists, I don't let you fight in front of me. I guide you to resolve issues at the actual root level, so you don't spend years in therapy. Sessions are focused, productive, and forward-moving. I’m here to help you break the pattern, not rehearse it.
2) Non-Pathologizing - Beyond "Failure" & "Fault"
Therapy has a bad wrap, which stems from negative perceptions surrounding "needing help". In the same way you're not supposed to know how to fix a car, represent yourself in court, or design a building, none of us were never taught the skills you needed to have a peaceful, fulfilling and connected relationship. There's nothing horribly wrong with you or your relationship, and you haven't "failed" if you need support. No one's to blame, and it's no one's "fault", but you can take responsibility to become the best parent and partner you can be! The best athletes, sports and business teams need coaches, not because they're weak, but to help them play their best game together.
3) I don't give advice, I facilitate the energy of connection.
The best couples counselling requires more than therapeutic techniques, good advice or new skills, it’s about restoring something deeper: the felt experience of being close. Connection is a flow of energy that happens naturally when I support you to gently move beyond your self-protection mechanisms to "take off your armour" and get emotionally naked. Facilitating that connection is an intuitive art form unique to every couples, not something you can follow from a manual.
4) I challenge you and see through the bullshit.
Many couples come see me after other therapy has failed. They say things like: “Our last therapist just let us fight, pathologized our childhood, or gave us worksheets… but nothing really changed.” Couples need to be challenged, not coddled. What couples actually need is someone who sees through all the bullshit, interrupts the cycle, and helps you face the real issues with honesty and care. That’s what creates breakthroughs. That’s why couples who’ve been stuck for years start making real progress with me fast; we heal the root without getting lost in symptoms.
5) We don't just "improve communication skills".
Couples need new experiences not just new skills. The roots of conflict are deeper and more complex than "poor communication". That's why even the most intelligent couples stay stuck. We resolve conflict at the root, not the symptom level, to create permanent change. We don't waste time on bandaid level solutions to symptoms. We create fundamental relationship transformation so you can have an intimate, passionate and fulfilling relationship for the rest of your life.
6) I don't squeeze you through a one-size fits all formula.
Many therapists only stick to one modality, but every couple is unique. I draw from: Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Somatic Experiencing, Gottman Method, Imago Therapy, Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Relational Life Therapy, Compassionate Inquiry, Gestalt Therapy. Each session is tailored to your unique dynamic, goals, and developmental growth stage, so you get what actually works for you, not a generic "therapy by the book". This is coaching & therapy customized for your evolving relationship.
7) I don't solve your problems for you.
Couples can solve problems on their own when they feel emotionally connected. That's why we repair past hurt and resentment to strengthen your emotional bond first. Only when you feel connected and understood can you negotiate disagreements peacefully with ease. I empower you to develop the capacity and skills to resolve problems and differences without me as quickly as possible. I want to make myself obsolete as fast as possible.
8) I join you in the trenches, then guide you out.
Couples say they appreciate how I'm human with them. I meet you as an equally imperfect human who understands how hard relationships are. I live what I teach, which allows me to guide you into new possibilities you've never experienced before. I regularly hear couples say, "That was the first time you've ever really understood me." I'm your Relationship Sherpa, helping you carry the load, walking with you up the mountain.
9) Emotionally-Focused & Somatic
Your body is always communicating and telling a story. I'm attuned to micro expressions and subtle nuances in your dynamic that are signals of protection or doorways to connection. I combine expertise and intuition to facilitate creative heart opening experiences that bring you back into connection. Remember connection isn't intellectual, it's emotional (of the heart). New ways of relating, including touch and different ways of holding each other interrupt habitual patterns creating breakthroughs.
10) In-Home, In-Person, 2-hr or 3-hr Breakthrough Intensives
In many cases, 1-hr is simply not enough. It's like doing open heart surgery then not finishing the job. That's why I offer different lengths of sessions so you can actually get what you need. Repair that resolves root issues forever requires us to operate outside of the box.
I help you understand each other completely, even when you disagree.
I love working with high conflict couples, who have tried everything, who other therapists couldn't help, who want to connect, but think it might be impossible.
Together, we turn hope into reality. Yes, what you want is possible. Yes, you can do it. Yes, it can get much much easier. Yes it's worth it. Yes you can heal all of the hurt and resentment that's cutting you off from each other. I watch the impossible become possible everyday. Ready to give yourself the gift of connection?
