Hi I'm Brian.
I empower couples to confidently repair arguments on their own so they can actually use conflict to deepen trust and grow closer
This isn't just a job for me, I'm fascinated by relationships, and I love my job. I help couples heal hurt & resentment after decades of disconnection to feel more connected again.
Break the cycle that leads to divorce. Don't just grow older, grow closer.
You will learn:
✅ Why the Real Problem Isn't Communication - and how to actually resolve root issues.
✅ How to Argue Constructively & Repair Any Conflict — even the same old fight.
✅ The #1 Tool to De-Escalate Fights - and the surprising reason couples resist it.
✅ Why Being “Nice” Destroys Relationships — and what to do instead.
✅ The Keys to Understanding Each Other — even when you disagree.
8 Differences to my Approach
1) We don't just "talk about your problems"
Rehashing "what happened"... you've done that enough already, and it doesn't' work. I don't let you fight in front of me. I help you resolve the underlying patterns that keep the same conflicts repeating. Couples therapy sessions are focused and practical. I’m here to help you break the pattern, not rehearse it.
2) It's not your fault and you haven't failed.
In the same way you're not supposed to know how to fix a car, represent yourself in court, or design a building, none of us were never taught the skills you needed to have a peaceful, fulfilling and connected relationship. There's nothing horribly wrong with you or your relationship, and you haven't "failed" if you need support. No one's to blame, and it's no one's "fault", but you can take responsibility to become the best parent and partner you can be! The best athletes, sports and business teams need support, not because they're weak, but to help them play their best game together.
3) I don't give advice, I facilitate the energy of connection.
Growing together requires more than techniques, good advice or new skills, it’s about restoring something deeper: the felt experience of closeness. Connection is a flow of energy that happens naturally when I support you to gently move beyond your self-protection mechanisms to "take off your armour" and get emotionally naked. Facilitating that connection is an art unique to each couple.
5) We don't just "improve communication skills".
Couples need new experiences, not just new skills. The roots of conflict are deeper and more complex than “poor communication.” That’s why even the most intelligent couples stay stuck. Together, we’ll work to understand and address the underlying patterns driving your conflict - not just manage the symptoms - so you can build a more intimate, passionate, and fulfilling relationship.
6) Your relationship is unique. Your therapy should be too.
Couples therapy comes in many forms. My approach is integrative, practical and solution-focused. Each session is tailored to your unique dynamic, goals, and developmental growth stage, so you get what actually works for you. This is couples therapy customized for your evolving relationship.
7) I don't solve your problems for you.
Couples can solve problems on their own when they feel emotionally connected. That's why we repair past hurt and resentment to strengthen your emotional bond first. Only when you feel connected and understood can you negotiate disagreements peacefully with ease. I empower you to learn the skills to resolve problems and differences without me as quickly as possible.
8) I join you in the trenches, then guide you out.
I meet you as an equally imperfect human who understands how hard relationships are. I live what I teach, which allows me to guide you into new possibilities you've never experienced before. In session, I regularly hear partners remark to each other, "That was the first time you've ever really understood me." I'm your Relationship Sherpa, helping you carry the load (and lighten it), as we walk up the mountain together.
